Why is it that children scream and holler when they don’t get something that they want at the toy store?
Why is it that children will be sweet as can be then all of a sudden when you tell them NO they turn into the incredible hulk?
Have you experienced this will kids? Have you experienced it with adults? That’s right, even adults have temper tantrums when they can’t have something, or when they’re told NO. But with adults usually they’re told NO from their spouses or their credit card companies when their card declines.
But what about kids? Why does this occur? Well its simple, they expect it and when they don’t get it, it’s an injustice to them. Kids that get pretty much whatever they want when their little without DOING anything in return can cause you a lot of trouble. One day you decide that enough is enough and you stop giving them whatever they want because as they get older, they want bigger, brighter and more expensive things, but they expect you to always say yes, like you used to. Those children, when they’re young are not expected to do anything for the things they get except a laugh and a smile. As a parent it makes you feel good to give your kids stuff when they’re little. But as they grow up, it changes to be unbearable and expensive and your kids end up being spoiled and expecting those things that you used to give them. So how do you handle this with your kids so that it’s their piggy banks that you’re taking the money from and not yours? Well first of all, have your kids do something for the money or things that you give them, don’t give them things without them doing something for it. Even Christmas and birthdays, make sure that they are saving their money and getting something for you as well so that they do something for you and you do something for them. Do you see? So here are some tips to help you as a parent and as an adult that will help you in the future with people that get a little grumpy when money’s involved.
1. Don’t go to the store and buy something new for your child as a reward if they haven’t done anything for it. And DON’T buy the reward before they DO that thing. This is an important point, if you buy them something that they want and tell them when they get home that they have to DO something for it, they will inevitably take advantage of you and not do it because they already got rewarded. I don’t know about you but I’ve never been paid before I did the work!
2. Have a point system, or money system worked out for your household where a child can do certain things to gain money, like chores etc. It’s better to give them the option on what they want to do for their money then you making them do something that they don’t want to do. Once the money is earned, go out and have them buy something they want, they will be more appreciative of it.
3. Acknowledge them! How good a job they did or thank them for their help. Ask them to help you with things around the house and smile at them for their accomplishment. Even if the child is one, they can help. If they make a mess, let them help you clean it up, if they want to help around the house or in the garage, let them, they want to do things for you. If you don’t let them because you are afraid they are going to make a mess or screw something up, find something that they can do and let them do it. The more you tell them not to help you the more resentful they are going to be and the more they will NOT DO anything.
4. Encourage them to work, allow them to work and be supportive of them and soon you will have children or spouses that are happy and winning in life because they are doing things for themselves that contribute to what they want in life.
REMEMBER, to LET THEM HELP and make their own money. Reward them for doing something helpful to you or your household and be happy that they are doing it.
The Debt Lady Says, “Don’t let your kids run all over you, instead, let they run around for you!”
No comments:
Post a Comment